Reframing for Abundance

I started my financial journey years ago. Before I began this journey, though, I started learning myself. I figured out what I enjoyed, started confronting and dealing with past traumas, and ultimately, working on myself. Part of this self-improvement process, though, was rooted in better understanding my context, my desires, how I defined success and failure, and how I understood my own values and relationships. In evaluating each of these things, I realized that mindset was important, and that the world really was full of each of the things I sought. I adjusted my view of the world from one rooted in scarcity, to one rooted in abundance.

It took a minute of meditating on this concept to really identify that abundance is not something beyond reach. That is, if the struggle is particularly real, I don’t expect this new framework of just choosing wealth to suddenly make it possible for me to pay my bills, or to develop an extra $500 in my bank account. Instead, it’s simply a way of thinking about the struggle. I stop thinking about everything I don’t have, and instead recognize everything I do. It’s about the gratitude inherent in positivity and the choices that allow for my life to reflect the overflow. 

What is an abundance mindset?        

One of the greatest things I’ve learned in my early adult life came from global travel. In addition to solidifying the gratitude that comes with being a stranger in a new place—a guest—world travel incited a shift in my mindset that was rooted in abundance. In traveling the world, It became clear that the world is brimming with great things, and those riches come in many forms: money, food and produce, water, fire, and all the things that come together to enrich life. With this self-replenishing bounty, the ways of life are about choice and circumstance. Like energy, abundance is ever present, never created or destroyed, but merely distributed. The difference between the most destitute and abundant circumstances is but the distribution of this wealth, and that distribution is often rooted in a singular framework. There is always enough–the goals are always attainable– but whether or not I reach those goals is dependent upon my choices.

So what does this all mean?

As a kid, I was trained to believe that I could accomplish anything I set my mind to. Any and everything was possible. At the root of this is simply the return to that belief: that there is opportunity, in some way, to achieve your goals—there is bounty enough for success to be realized for each of us. As I became an adult, I became increasingly aware of the hurdles between success and my present state. I shifted to a space where I began to believe the jaded, scarcity view: that success could only be realized by a small number of people, and with that, that what I had at present was that with which I must manage. I lost my drive to go out and harvest more, set limits on my achievements through my belief system, and stopped recognizing the correlation between my daily choices and my path to success.

So, despite the mindset taught to me through my own life experience, observation, or enculturation, I made a choice. I chose to stop viewing the gaps between what I had and what I needed. I chose to stop viewing how hard things were, that there was a bottom to the money bag, or a limit to my achievement. I chose to do better. I chose to defy the odds, and to live a life reflective of the inner wealth I carried with me on a daily basis—to live a life reflective of my dreams. I chose to live deliberately, and to incorporate this shift in mindset into daily decisions. I opted to keep it simple, miss the trends, focus on gratitude, and prioritize experience over common effects. I set up systems rooted in automation, pacified flows, redefined success on my own terms and set goals.

I started asking “why not me?”

As I became increasingly motivated to pursue my success, I made a decision to reframe my worldview to better match my younger self. I focused on shifting to an abundance mindset—one which allowed me to create my own reality: to shift from managing what is present to recognizing the system in which great bounty is within reach. I navigated that system with such a goal in mind. Abundance exists in each of our lives, merely waiting for us to seize it. Through expressive choice and experience, in relationships, and, finally, in money.  With this new framework, I thoroughly appreciated each moment life handed me, better understanding how the disproportionate distribution of wealth left space for gratefulness and appreciation of the small things: tastes, colors, smells, experiences. I explored passionately. I hungered to feel something other than the push to consume more than experience, and as I defied that push, I went from making ~$70k at 22 with a negative five-figure net worth, to earning more than six figures two years later. By thirty, I’d more than doubled my income and moved to millionaire status by way of a series of wise investments.  I dropped the nonsense that was regularly occurring in my dating life. I learned not to settle, became okay with being alone, and found my other half. I stepped away from the stress, fell into my passion, learned to be fully present in the moment and pursued my higher self. I became enough for me.

There is always enough.

While I am significantly farther in my journey, I continue to grow, change and adjust. I realize that the only limit to this growth is the one I create; the world redistributes wealth, joy and wisdom at each and every moment.  At the deepest core, abundance comes down to the fundamental choice to deliberately shift present circumstance to match your intentions. In making this choice, you’ve started to redistribute the focus of your abundance to match your intentions.  You may pursue abundance in various areas of your life: in your money, in your career, in your relationships, and beyond. The key is in making choices and taking control, consistently adjusting your thought to evaluate success with the simple question: “why not me?”

I took the time to identify what brings me joy, set priorities and redefine success outside of the values society expects me to have. Once I set the things I valued in the spotlight, I established a way to budget my time, money and energy to reflect those values and priorities. I made sure that I was part of that: that my own health and wellbeing, fulfillment and joy, were part of those priorities. In doing this, I began to better understand money as a means to achievement and to use it as such. Finally, I omitted the rest—the things that pulled away from my pursuit of joy, and all the things that leeched on my energy.

It all started with a choice, where I stood, to do better.

So, what’s stopping you?

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